Keep in touch
Students at all levels of the university experience like to stay connected with home life. They also like to know that you are there if they need you. Send a quick text to wish them luck on a test or email just to let them know you care. UNM has a Care Package program you can find out more through the University Parent website. Is your student’s birthday coming up or do they need a midterm pick me up? Send them cookies or a cake through the UNM Alumni Association Cake Program.
Know that you are important
Students regularly cite parents among the greatest influences in their lives. UNM faculty and staff also recognize that you can be a tremendous partner in helping your students reach their goals in college. We look to you to encourage your students to follow their intellectual passions, as well as to become independent adults.
Let them choose
Your student wants to know that you believe in them. Let them make decisions, choose their own courses, and eventually choose a major. They may choose a major based on their intellectual passion, not based on which major is likely to earn the most money.
Let them solve problems
Your student may ask you to intervene in a problem situation. Resist the urge to handle the situation for them. Act as consultant as your student learns to problem-solve and communicate.
Express confidence and be realistic
Your student will encounter roadblocks and disappointments along the way. Allow them to make mistakes, and let them know that you are confident that they can work through issues that may arise.
Help them learn the difference between disappointment and failure
At some point, your student will likely experience something they will label as a failure, such as a C on a test, even if it is not. Assure them that their best effort is all you expect.
You don’t need to have all the answers, just know where to point your student if they need additional help. View the quick links below for a list of resources.